No one likes a Jerk. And truthfully, I’ve had to spend significant amounts of energy increasing my emotional intelligence so I wouldn’t be one of “them.” But what if you work with one? What if you live next to one? Whether it is at our place of employment or in our family circle, we all have to learn how to deal with difficult people. Each of us can name names of difficult people that we have to interact with on a regular basis.
While there is much advice out on there among relationship experts, I am just going to share with you some leadership tips that I have learned over the years.
(And no, I am not writing this post because I am currently dealing with a difficult relationship. I just thought it would be a helpful topic after my previous post.)
How to Deal with Difficult People
Assume the best in others. This can be hard to do at times, but I think it is an important life skill to master. We do not always know what is going on in the lives of other people. Sometimes people behave badly because of deep personal struggles that are going on in their lives. We ought to instead choose to see the best in others. A good question to ask is “What do I admire about ________?”
Make room for other people’s faults. This concept piggy backs off the first point. If you want to learn how to deal with difficult people, then you must learn the art of making room for other’s faults. Just like it is discussed in the Bible, we as humans are so quick to judge others when we have glaring weaknesses of our own. We need to make room for other people’s faults and be more critical of our own shortcomings instead of just making excuses for our own behaviors.
Let them face the consequences of their own decisions. This may sound harsh but it is not intended to be. Some of us feel the need to always fix other people. That does not always work. Sometimes allowing them to face the consequences of their decisions is the best route to take. They will learn more through their own failures.
Be determined to find common ground. I just believe down deep that there has to be something that we can agree on. When you are dealing with a difficult person ask the question, “Where is the common ground among us?” Then you can start from there.
Create a distance if necessary. There is nothing wrong with creating a healthy distance between toxic people. You must do this with the right motives and intentions. It is not because you are better than they. You do this because you choose to not let their attitudes and actions impact yours.
Surround yourself with positive people. You need to counter-balance the negativity by surrounding yourself with people who are spirit-filled and display positive thinking. This will help you from falling into the same downward spiral as others.
Those are some of the ways of how to deal with difficult people. Use them all or just take a few. Start applying them today to the difficult relationships that you maybe currently facing.